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Cape Cod Mental Health Outpatient Counselor Sandra Farrell

I congratulate every person who is on the road to recovery. I know how difficult that can be. For those contemplating giving up drugs and alcohol I can heartily say, GO FOR IT

"When I met Sandra for the first time, my fear disappeared and I knew CFTI was the place for me." Name Withheld for Confidentiality"


"Sandy IS the best thing that happened in my life. She knew exactly what I needed and helped me choose the right path. I honestly don't know if I would be where I am today without Sandy." Name Withheld for Confidentiality"

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The web is overloaded with articles describing anxiety, depression and substance abuse. It tells you what the symptoms are, how they effect people, how they originated, etc.. It doesn't usually help the individual to personally deal with these disabling disorders. Anxiety, depression and addiction often ruin lives, and unfortunately, can end up killing a victim.

You already know what your symptoms are. You are painfully aware of how they affect your emotions and your life. You want to deal with them and get answers to your particular problems! Anxiety, depression, alcohol abuse and drug addiction is experienced differently for each individual. You are entitled to receive treatment just for you;. Individualized treatment works.

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Ask yourself the following questions.......

Do you know that you are more anxious or depressed than most people?
Do you think you may have a problem with alcohol or drugs, but can't talk about it?
Have you felt hopeless to cope with your particular symptoms of anxiety or depression?
Have you tried, unsuccessfully, to share how you feel with friends, a partner or family?

Has telling others helped you to get relief long-term or only for a short while?
Do others care, but get tired of hearing about your symptoms and painful feelings?
Do you feel scared and alone in your situation?
Do you believe counseling can be effective? But not for you?

Have you ever connected well with a counselor? They all have different styles of working with clients. If you don't connect, go to another counselor.
Are you open to working with a professional and learn to effectively deal with your pain?
Do you want to eliminate or reduce stress and your hopeless feelings?

Do you want to be able to recognize the triggers that are related to your anxiety, depression and/or substance abuse?

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COUPLES and RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING
COUPLES CO-DEPENDENCY
SOMEONE TO TALK TO IN COMPLETE CONFIDENTIALITY

Do you recognize any of the following statements ?

My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you and receiving approval from you. Your struggles affect my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain. My mental attention is focused on pleasing, protecting or manipulating you to do it my way. Solving your problems and relieving your pain bolsters my self-esteem. Because I feel you are a reflection of me, you're clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires. Your behavior is dictated by my desires. I am not aware of how I feel.

I am aware of how you feel. I am not aware of what I want. I ask you what you want. If I am not aware of something, I assume. (I don't ask or verity it in some other way.) The dreams I have for my future are linked to you. My fear of your anger and rejection determines what I say or do. In our relationship I use giving as a way of feeling safe. As I involve myself with you, my social circle diminishes. To connect with you, I put my values aside. I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own. The quality of my life depends on the quality of yours.

--Author unknown. Circulated by Co-Dependents Anonymous

Couples Counseling

Nobska Road

Mashpee Massachusetts 02649
508-873-2132 or 

I highly recommend this book
for anyone who wants to be happier.
S. Lyubomirsky "The How of Happiness"

I read this many years ago when I was in  recovery
I wanted to be accountable to others for my actions, thoughts   and  feelings.
I hope it inspires you to value your family and friends in the here and now.
For me, being in this family means love and acceptance.
In this family, we carefully watch over other family members.
In this family, we emotionally feel secure sharing our feelings.
In this family, we decide when not to share our feelings and struggles.
on not to share is based on altruism,
on what is best for the other person.
Thoughtfulness and caring are the norm.
The intuitive and warm feelings come from deep respect for one another.
Compassionate personalities and strong value systems thrive on honesty, love and understanding.
This family is truly blessed. However, there are past hurts and trauma.
Every generation has a unique way of looking at these problems.
Problems test love.
Love intermingles with confusion.
Confusion often leads to hope.
Hope is empowering. (SF)

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COUNSELING FOR TODAY'S ISSUES

WOMAN'S SUPPORT GROUP
BUTTERFLIES REPRESENT FREEDOM AND GROWTH

Women For Freedom and Growth

THE CFTI WOMAN'S SUPPORT GROUP THAT
Meets IN Falmouth MA. on Cape Cod is currently closed.
OFFERED BY COUNSELING FOR TODAY'S ISSUES
TO REGISTER CALL SANDRA FARRELL, DIRECTOR AT
508-873-2132

LIMITED SPACE SO PLEASE CALL SOON
$30. A WEEK FOR 1 ½ HOURS

NO MORE THAN 8 MEMBERS PER GROUP
AGES 21 - 81 WELCOME

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When joining The Woman's Support Group, a group offered by Counseling For Today's Issues, you can begin self-care. By sharing daily problems and on-going struggles, as well as the positive things that happen. You will feel that others understand and are empathetic to what you are going through. You will explore personal feelings and share frustrations in a confidential and nurturing environment. You accept support and understanding from group members. You allot a 'special time' just for you. Congratulations! Go to the Womans Support link in the top right of this page for more Cape Cod info.

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Drugs and Alcohol are not the answer !

A sober journey really is a better life. When was the last time you smelled some flowers or went for a walk or talked to someone about what may be bothering you . Take 5 minutes and call Sandra right now and talk about whatever you want in complete Confidentiality.

It has been proven that those receiving counseling have been more successful in their recovery programs than those who try to do it alone. CFTI is ready to support you and help you deal with the stress and confusion in early recovery. It takes time to learn the tools of recovery and build confidence. A key element (action) is taking personal responsibility.

The counselor gives encouragement and positive feedback. The rewards of a sober and straight lifestyle are significant. Friends and family benefit and a journey of recovery has begun for everyone.

Call for help now! 508-873-2132 Sandra Farrell, MS,CADAC Director of CFTI

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WHEN SHOULD SOMEONE SEEK THERAPY WITH A COUNSELOR

Clients do not want to lose those they love, to isolate from the world, to have anxiety and confusion, to experience deep depression or to completely lose trust in themselves and others. Nevertheless, that is often their reality when they enter treatment. With counseling support, clients develop the power to turn things around for themselves. They understand that thoughts, feelings, behaviors, goals and self-caring are areas they need to work on in sessions and outside of sessions. They work toward the positive adjustments needed and that takes time.

Do you constantly worry about any undue, prolonged anxiety, depression or have mood swings or employment issues, loneliness,difficulties in relationships or life events such as marriage, divorce, death, parenthood, blended family issues, retirement. What about chronic physical illness caused by tension and stress or problems following traumatic events such as accidents, childhood abuse, etc.

Are there problems with domestic violence or other forms of abuse
Are you affected by stress in the face of chronic or terminal illness or other health problems
Do you have constant worries or obsessions,excessive anger,frustration,or guilt with no resolution. What about self-destructive thoughts and behavior problems with drugs or alcohol .

It is important to understand that the counseling required to assist a client with these issues takes time and on-going support. Motivation is a key ingredient to moving forward in counseling.

However, motivation and resistance are ever changing states of readiness. To lower the client's resistance positive action is required from the client. Even with these positive actions change is difficult and the client may feel stuck. Nevertheless, action and change help predict new behaviors. New behaviors encourage clients to move forward and to reach their goals. But there is a big difference between thinking about change and taking action to make those changes. The client is taught how to develop healthy habits of self-advocacy. CFTI clients develop the necessary skills to address this. They will focus on verbalizing optimism and demonstrate commitment.

This work is essential to personal growth and counseling can encourage individuals to face the adversity and barriers they encounter as they move forward in their recovery program. It is a move forward to self-actualization. Clients are offered the opportunity to talk about and understand their fluctuating emotions. The client can then act on what needs to be changed.Client's lives are improved by taking one step at a time. Clients begin to believe, I am worth the effort to get better.

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IN THE NEW YEAR 2012 CHANGE YOUR THINKING/CHANGE YOUR LIFE/HELP OTHERS

1. How would things be if your problems were miraculously transformed into solutions? What would it look like? How would your day be different?

2. Read the book by S. Lyubomirsky, “The How of Happiness", New York: Penguin Pub.

3. What is the best thing is your life? The most worrisome?

4.Flip a coin, heads you will think of something positive about someone you love, tails you will identify something negative about someone you love. Talk about both subjects to that person (at a quiet time for you both).

5.Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to intervene with yourself. What do you want ‘different’ in your life and how will you accomplish that.

6.Write down 4 ways you can implement to ‘bounce back’ from a bad day. Do you actively do these things now?

7.Express 4 things that are positive about someone you love………….and do not tell anyone. Express 4 things that are negative about someone you love…..and decide how you would like to handle those problems……and tell no one.

8.Some strengths of individuals are: creativity, wisdom, perspective, integrity, kindness, fairness, forgiveness, mercy, gratitude, hope, spirituality, open-mindedness, understanding, empathy, love of self, encouragement, foresight, and add three more you can think of
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9.How would you approach a friend you believe needs some type of counseling or other professional help?

Here are some suggestions.

I have been feeling lately that something is bothering you.  Would you like to talk to me about it? I hear what you are saying and I am sorry it is difficult for you right now.  Is it something you might want to talk with a professional about?( They may have a perspective on what you can do).

I hate to see you worrying so.  I know a counselor you could go to and just talk.  They say talking things out helps a lot.  You are such a good person.  I want to see you happy.

It doesn’t seem fair you have to suffer so.  There are people you can talk to.  They may be able to help you determine what steps could move you forward.

Would you like to talk to a counselor, she is in my BNI group and is willing to talk to people over the phone.  She seems friendly and easy to talk to.

Do you think your depression is becoming more severe?  I hate to see you so down.  Why not call a counselor, they might have ideas on how to cope with depression.  You deserve to be happy.  You are such a wonderful person.

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